Let me assure you that this post is not a bitter, depressed, 40something waxing on about being single.(And by the way, if you are bitter and depressed, I feel you; those feelings can be so intense. You matter.) This post is about some realizations I have had over the years about the probability that I may never be married and certainly will not birth my own kids.Honestly, there was never a time where it even crossed my mind in early adulthood that my life "status" would not include married with kids.There were even times when my belly would be bloated after a big meal and I would stand sideways in the mirror and think, Being a wife and mom was something I just naturally assumed would come to fruition.In your 20s, you were probably taught to focus on school and your career goals before settling down to start a family. On one hand, you’re climbing the corporate ladder; on the other hand you want kids, and you want to get started soon.Most men are told to make sure they have something to offer a woman before they settle down but beyond that, there’s not a lot of pressure on them in their 20s to get married. You know it’s medically possible, but you’re not wanting to get started with a family at 40. The 30-something guys, however, don’t seem to be on your level.I only dated because my ex had a girlfriend, and it was my way to personally retaliate. Starting to date again can be an overwhelming experience. I needed to work through my personal issues before I could be successful in dating.
She was raised in church – the daughter of deacons.The sweet daddy/daughter dance is always a highlight of emotion at weddings.My cousin and her dad danced to the song, "I Loved Her First." The song is about how a father is the first man to love his daughter, and then comes a beautiful point when he gives her away to the next man to love her, her husband.Are you a high-achieving, strong, spiritual and successful sister who is still single after 40?Are you starting to lose hope that there are any men who share your values and desires for a committed relationship?It’s a little shocking to women to hear this because they expect the men in their peer group to want similar things as they do.