But I’ve found that the term player is also used far too often by controlling women who want to “control” the dating process.
For example, a male client complained that he’s been called a player on a number of occasions—an accusation that angers and frustrates him. “Sure, on occasion I’ve slept with a couple of women with whom I chose not to commit to. I’m looking for the right person and it’s going to take time.
Perhaps a husband cheated, or a long-term boyfriend abandoned them, or a man seen as having potential dropped them soon after sex. But if they believe it is their right to control the dating process, they should seek counsel.
We all know the guy (or guys) who plays uncool, perplexing and completely ridiculous mind games that leave you wondering, “WTF?!
By that, I mean fill your life with fun, meaningful activities.Contact is reciprocal, time is made to see each other, and forward movement is evident. The hot phase is designed to get you in the gate that leads to the corral, where you'll later be harnessed. Your partner begins to pull away making you long for their previous attention.Whether initiated by a cold-shoulder, avoidance, or lack of communication... This phase activates loss, making you yearn for them and wait with bated breath for their call or text. These are the basic dance steps to this type of behavior. This formula is predictable and consistent even when your partner's reactions are not.” While it’s generally best to stay away from these mystifying men, sometimes it can be worth sticking it out with a confused cutie who may just need a little direction.But when should you stick around, and when should you run out the door?Most of his relationships were long-term, and he was able to hold a 20-year-marriage together without ever straying. Yes, but one can make a commitment without remarrying, or make a commitment and remarry at a more comfortable time for both parties.