Cybersex is commonly performed in Internet chat rooms (such as IRC, talkers or web chats) and on instant messaging systems.
It can also be performed using webcams, voice chat systems like Skype, or online games and/or virtual worlds like Second Life.
After he confessed, I broke into his e-mail and found not only gay porn but messages to one of his lovers.
It was clear that these men were compartmentalizing their lives.
Cybersex, also called computer sex, Internet sex, netsex and, colloquially, cyber or cybering, is a virtual sex encounter in which two or more people connected remotely via computer network send each other sexually explicit messages describing a sexual experience.
In one form, this fantasy sex is accomplished by the participants describing their actions and responding to their chat partners in a mostly written form designed to stimulate their own sexual feelings and fantasies.
But rather than revealing the undesired behavior outright, frame the situation with a positive, says Andrea Syrtash, author of .
In some contexts cybersex is enhanced by the use of a webcam to transmit real-time video of the partners.
Channels used to initiate cybersex are not necessarily exclusively devoted to that subject, and participants in any Internet chat may suddenly receive a message with any possible variation of the text "Wanna cyber? " or a request for "C2C"/"C4C" ("cam to cam" and "cam for cam", respectively).
And for the first time ever, I looked at the world as an evil place because nothing—and no one—was what I thought.
MC: Why did he pretend to be straight for a decade? Because he wasn't sure he was gay (he was in denial), he didn't confess earlier for fear of losing me.
He said, "I'm having issues with my sexuality—I'm fantasizing about going down on men." I laughed. Then he burst into wracking sobs, and my whole body went cold. I opened a bottle of wine and started chain smoking and firing angry and tearful questions at him in disbelief until we were both exhausted and the sun came up.